A generation lost in suppression

Its good to be able to write again, its not easy being an unpaid writer in this era, on an average  i spend 16 hours a day doing reports and paper work that has no value to my conscience but hey whatever puts the food on table right?

I want to start this blog with a simple question, i want to meet all my teachers, mentors, well wishers, anyone one who advised me growing up and ask them one simple question. Where is my life? The life i was promised, they all told me to chase my dreams like a mad dog chasing cars, they all told me not to give up no matter how tough it gets, but in reality its all bogus a plain lie that keeps us from rebelling at a young age.

The whole concept of chasing ones dreams seems Ludicrous to me at this point, a gentle reminder to readers i am not a pessimist, its just that the world we live in is not the same as we were told growing up. I recently winded up my studies and was so keen on finally entering the real world when it hit me, i am drowned till neck in unnecessary responsibilities and stuck with work that doesn't make me happy. We all think we can shape our future the way we want and we can but not without sacrificing almost all we value. Its like no matter where i go i find people trapped in work they don't enjoy and when asked why do it at all, well it pays is the best answer i get.

I am found of writing, i might not be the best at it but it gives me a sense of satisfaction, by the time i graduated i had made up my mind to just write, get myself any opportunity that comes and just write my way out of the abyss, very less did i know that the moment i graduated i was a burden on my parents, they went through hell pushing me through college and had spent so much that it blinded them of my happiness, in a perfect world we can say that they are wrong forcing their decisions on us but trust me if they didn't provide me with whatever they did my best chance at writing would be on a piece of paper in some sewer. They keep telling me to start doing something productive and i guess its time we change the meaning of the world "Productive" in the dictionary as something that earns money cause i seriously cannot think of any other way i can be productive!

What is deeply troubling me though is not that i am being forced to stop dreaming, its the fact that i do not have the right or the power of opposing it. How can i? don't i owe them this much? are the question frequent on my train of thoughts but seriously we as a society should do a better job with the coming generations than we did with ours.

I always wanted to work around things i wanted the way i wanted but there are limitations, i picked up a part time job to support my dreams but had to quit soon as my college principal felt that i am wasting my time working and i could do better if i just focused on studies, so one phone call to my father and i am done.

So basically we cant work cause we are too young and we need to be educated first, we cant decide what we want to study cause hey you do not pay the fees so the decision is not yours, you cannot abandon family and chase your dreams cause then you're the Prodigal son. Thus i sentence you to a life of suffocation and broken dreams.

If by reading this you feel it has happened to you don't be sad, we have an entire generation doing things that were  "ADVISED" to us, i believe we can change this by simply moving on and making the best out of whatever we have at whichever crossroads we are at.

You are not alone, pick up that flute which gives you peace, string that guitar that lays in the attic, put on you scuba suit, cause we will not give up.

Make it a point to do things which make you happy, i have spent so much time doing things that don't amuse me that it has made me old from within, wake up the child in you, ask yourself will you be able to be happy denying yourself what you really want?

I think we need to start asking some serious questions, like do you want to be treated by a doctor who wanted to be an actor instead? or would you feel safe driving over a bridge built by someone who barely made it out of college where his parents forced him to study? the list goes on.

We should take a pledge that we will be better at understanding what our children feel, what they want to do, or simply what gives them peace, only than can we make this world a beautiful place.

I would like to leave you with something that i heard and it changed my vision, maybe it would help you too.

"Only by admitting what we truly are can we get what we truly WANT. "

Let's Live while we are still Breathing

What keeps us alive? Is it the air? Is it just the air? People might get all Sigmund Freud on me and say love , but is it really love that gets us through , well maybe but it’s clearly not the only factor helping us sail through rough seas we call life.

“Curiosity” it’s clearly the need to know, the answers like what, when, why, who that takes us through life. Think about it, whom will I marry? Where will I work? What will I wear? We keep thinking curiously about what is about to happen and that keeps us glued to life. 

But my main intention is to shift the attention from planning the future to Plan to be surprised. Honestly on a scale of one to are you kidding me, how much of what we plan are we able to actually bring around into real? I am not saying that don’t plan, stay wild, NO. Plan but don’t stick your life around a piece of paper that says “Blue Print” of Life.

Life is one big series of Disappointments, trust me from our favorite mug breaking on a low day to missing out on finer things in life for no apparent reasons, life will throw all this at us, but during this are times of joy, times when one gets those seconds of pleasure, like the look of a person across the room to just bumping into something that changes us forever.

We plan so hard that even if it is giving us all, it takes away what should be number one on the list and that’s the feeling you get when you think you are worth. Not the feeling of winning but the feeling that one has when the inner self is so happy by the deeds one has done that nothing in the world can take it away on that moment.

Just learn to stay alive while we are breathing, I wasn’t this , I too was  “My life should be this type” kind of a guy , I too used to follow a routine that would have helped me get where I wanted not knowing I am actually not happy , what’s the point in having it all by losing it all? But well nature has its ways to reach out and bring about change in us.

I was home working late one night , it had been 8 months since I had written a single piece and still I was busy with things I didn’t enjoy and suddenly I got a call from my grandpa , an honest chap with nothing to brag about , he was sad a little and wanted to talk , he began with random talks about how he misses my grandma who passed away last year and how his life has been one big roller coaster , how he missed out on a job at age of 27 as he chose not to go away from his family, how he was sad that night as one of his colleague from his olden days had just gifted his grandson a brand new car and that he couldn't give me nothing but the fact that he was happy as he never missed any of my birthdays as he was always with me, how he never missed a single day seeing us grow and turn into what we are today and he asked me this. “Was my life worth it?” and I shed into tears, it was then that I realized that his life was far better than I could ever ask for.

People take life too seriously that they forget the purpose of it, life is not a test, it’s just a journey , we don’t need to make all the right decisions , make mistakes , learn from them , make new mistakes everyday , see where they take you, if you feel it’s the wrong way take a turn, never wait for a thing to happen , go forward and do it, life is too short for us to make excuses, excuses are like these life jackets that we put on in order to salvage our mistakes and stay afloat in the open ocean of life.

Take a decision and live by it, have no remorse cause to be honest

“Life is one big series of disappointments and in the end he who managed to get little moments of joy intact will prevail and rest all will be ridden to dust before they realize it”.

A Bite of The Forbidden Apple

Folks I asked my loyal Filthy Readers to come up with suggestions about topics that they know do exist but well the society we live in has tabooed, and i got a fair response so reading along the suggested topics something Filthy Caught my eye so here I am expressing my thoughts on it.

So we all have accepted at some stage in our lives that we have been in “LOVE”. So I guessed if we all have been in love (being in love and being in relation are different loving someone is all that matters for the topic) we all should pretty much know a lot about love isn't it?

So let’s take a Quick Quiz round I asked 10 random people to define love and was shocked almost 8 of them said the same thing as if they learnt love from the same book, they said and I quote “LOVE IS THE EMOTIONAL BOND BETWEEN TWO SOULS THAT IS PURE AND UNCORRUPT FROM ANY EXPECTATIONS “ok so if while reading this if you agree with what they said say aye! And note it down somewhere that you agree.

OK now let’s go through a beautiful story, once there was a man who loved a woman they were madly in love so they ran away and got married. They were poor so the man couldn’t feed the woman and give her pleasures so just to keep her happy he decides to steal, he gets caught goes to prison for 20 years for armed robbery and murder attempt and the woman leaves him. He comes out of prison and has lost all hopes from life when he suddenly meets another woman who loves him more than anyone ever did and they get married have two wonderful babies and live happily ever after …….

So how many of you went awwwww…. Note it down if you did. Now let’s edit this story a little.

The base of story is same just towards the end when the man gets out of prison and has lost all hopes he meets this woman and falls in love again so does this woman but the catch is that this woman is no one else but his own DAUGHTER from his wife who left him while he was in prison. Yes it is a True story this story is of a couple who have been fighting the society, government and The Church authorities to be together.

So now honestly tell me how many of you went Ewwwww….. I bet your aww changed to eww just because a guy and his daughter fell in love and have babies.

Now let’s go through another beautiful story

There was a widow woman who had 2 young kids and she worked all day to feed them , her late husband’s brothers have been showing lust towards her and she is pretty sure she will die , but then comes this prince charming and fights all , defeats all and marries her and they live happily ever after…..

Wasn't it adorable? Almost as if Disney wrote it. Now let’s edit just a bit, the  prince charming is no one else but that widow woman’s elder son who fights all and marries his own mother and believe it or not his mom is pregnant you don’t believe me? Check this link out at the end of the blog….

We live in a society where we move around saying that we all believe in LOVE and how pure , uncorrupt and mysterious it is but this same double faced society would ban Gay marriages, would not allow incestuous relationship (blood related people can’t have sex)

This are just two examples see around yourself you find people preaching about love blowing love’s head off every breathing second.We see husbands and wives cheating on their spouse as they are bored and need a change or they were attracted, I am not saying that love does not exist all I am saying is love is not just what we think it is, what’s wrong if gay people marry? according the definitions you guys gave love is just an emotional bond between two souls , gay people too have souls, the father and daughter who got married should have every right in the world to be together and be happy , who gave us the power to say what is normal and what’s not ?? How dare people call their love gross and sinful? How is their love different from your love towards your respective loved one?

Heard About Woody Allen? We all grew up watching his movies didn’t we? He too is in an incestuous relationship with his step daughter ….

Now if you want to argue about how your religion says its bad, well friends if two people from different religions can marry in this century so can any two individuals with no matter how they are related……

Going even into more bizarre fact a man married his horse as he felt that the horse is the only living creature who ever cared about him, took care of him when he wasn’t well and sadly he’s on the run as what he did was a crime in his country.

So readers either accept the fact that while talking about love you can’t neglect the physicality as most of the time you did ewww…was cause you read that dad and daughter had sex or mother and son had sex. Or imagining a man and a horse , I won’t say gay men as most of us have accepted them (even though we don’t allow them to marry) I think the day we accept all possible relations in love will be the day when LOVE will be what you guys defined.

Loving and having sex with someone related to you by blood, loving and having sex with someone having same gender as you, loving and having sex with someone/something from other species is not at all FILTHY,, talking about love being pure and that it can happen to anyone in public and then neglecting, hurting and banishing the above mentioned people is what I actually call FILTHY.In today's world its just like the story of the forbidden apple ,its there but we cant bite it,so now it’s up to you what is shallow and who is narrow minded now eeh? by this blog I do not wish to hurt anyone’s sentiments I have merely stated my views on the facts that I found going through the research of the topic, all web links with proof about content given below check if you wish…. 

dad-daughter relationship Australia
siblings married and have a kid
brother marries sister in india

Why hate the haters?

Vengeance is the purest emotion they say .... i too believed in it for far too long  to realize the fact that its all a paradoxical cycle which consumed me and left me where i started....

you hurt me as i did something knowingly or unknowingly to hurt you , i hurt you back and feel happy and it keeps on going till we both either die or find a common good and give up but what i realized walking down this road is i wasted far too much time in inflicting the pain to people who gave me pain , i could have consumed that time in doing things that would do good to me and just me..

We humans the self proclaimed Superior species on this planet have this natural default tendency to have a compulsion thrive to avenge ourselves. we have a gift of life , and so does 6 billion + other people around us. now if some one does something to push you down and rise up is it really wrong ?? instead of acting like crabs and pulling down each other cant we just focus on rising up and higher on our own.

I know its hard for us to make others understand this but cant we just realize and adapt this ourselves ? to be honest we are a limitless source of energy and we can do wonders with a WILL , but unfortunately we never push ourselves to the extreme unless and until we are opposed or pushed back , would a runner in Olympic run to this optimum speed if he's running alone ? we perform better when some one is competing , we go that  extra mile , we sweat a bit more , we do things that we wouldn't have thought of doing to win. so ultimately we went all guns blazing just cause we had someone pointing guns at us. 

Instead of hating back my haters i chose to thank them and rather use them, hahah to be honest i consider haters to be the most important reason behind whatever i achieve, every time someone stood up and said i wont let you do this/achieve this/ win this i gave a smile and said thanks now i will dedicate my immediate future in proving you wrong, now i agree to the fact that i did that to prove that hater wrong but i know that helped me achieve what i wanted cause the zest to prove him wrong fueled my thirst to win helped me to let go the weakness and endure more ......

What are we without our haters? we'r just average ....we would move beyond the normal unless we are being pushed down..remember Christoper Nolan's DARK KNIGHT ? do you think Batman would have been The Batman we love and respect if he didn't have enemies to fight? hahah not diverting the topic but just staging the facts that One simply does not attain heights without a Great Opponent. 

So cheers to the haters we must say , thank them , tease them , do not try and destroy them on the contrary make them hate you more cause the more they hate the more you'll work to save your back .hahahah i do not mean by this that be an ass and walk around pissing off people all i am saying is  keep working and if someone is jealous and hates you do not hate him back rather take up the fight to him and go beyond your limits and achieve what i feel is Respect from haters.....

YOU TRULY ARE NOTHING UNTIL THE PEOPLE WHO HATE YOU, RESPECT YOU 

Insignificantly significant

Sometimes i wake up in morning and even though being alive is the greatest gift on the face of this earth i feel aahhh.... i need to convince myself to get up, convince myself to get going. No matter how strong you are no matter how privileged you are , life does find a way to get to you .

I am not an expert on the topic but from all i have been through so far i can say this with no doubt whatsoever that life is not fair. all would agree to the fact that they see people around them who have things they don't deserve , where as they worked so hard for things they want and were denied, but before judging them take a brief moment and think is him/her getting whatever he/she has anything to do with you not getting what you want ? yes i know sometimes you might lose a seat to a wealthier person or things like that but well can you really blame others for having what they have ? instead of rolling over in self sob cant we not lift ourselves and work harder? i know its not easy but than again nothing that is pleasing ever easy.

I see too many people blaming too many failures on too many reasons that are purely Fictitious. OH GOD!! your so Unfair is the most common reason i hear . hahahah it amazes me that people feel they kind of have a VIP pass with their respective Gods , to be honest while praying and asking something from god please be certain that there exists more than six billion people on this planet who are doing the same thing so if you feel that you will get all you want and rest wont i pity your stupidity, so instead of blaming it on god for blessing others and not you please bless yourselves by working a bit harder for a bit longer . sometimes we give up coming so close to our destination that if we could see ourselves from some place above we would laugh on ourselves. sometimes no matter how bad things get, no matter how insignificant our efforts may seem they are significant in the bigger picture that we miss to see.

sometimes we give up on things cause we are denied what we want or what we desire but we must realize the fact that  "when Dreams are denied Heroes are born" , one simply does not put in valiant efforts until pushed to the furthest corner. How will you do supernatural deeds if you are cosy and comfy with all you want by your side? 

I believe in the fact that nothing meaningful comes out of a situation unless we face a total annihilation, we wont be able to rise till we burn to ashes , we must give up all expectations in order to attain a greater victory ,cause Expectations limits a man's vision ,well if you really want to win try giving up all your strength and play to your weakness and achieve what you want cause my friends that victory will be victory in true sense.

 

so i will conclude by saying Next time you miss out on a job , miss out on a college seat , miss out on paying up your debts do not give up, do not transfer your sorrow into a rage for others cause to be honest all of us are fighting our separate war with life , instead of blaming our loss on others lets start working harder , instead of being sore losers lets be proud workers.